Bittersweet Candy Bowl

So I met this girl recently. She’s absolutely amazing. Just perfect in every way.
Unfortunately, she lives a little over an hour away from me. While I know that doesn’t sound like too much, considering our class and work schedules, we won’t be able to see each other often (every month or two).
I’ve never carried on a long-distance relationship, and I was wondering if there’s any tips anyone could give me for keeping it going.

Hmm… I have no experience with this, but definitely stay in touch. Call each other, talk over the Internet, even send letters if you can. Or rather, do send letters; it shows you care. Same with the odd present. ^_^

Otherwise… Do different things when you are together. Perhaps watch a film one time, and just talk the next, then eat the third time. I mean, I honestly have no idea whether that works, so do not take my word for it. I am just musing a bit. ^_^

That’s it? Just drive there, like, once a week or something. Make it work or it’s not worth it.

That’s the thing, though, Jerk. I literally wake up, go to school, come home, shower, go to work, come home, go to sleep, repeat. The days that I DON’T work are the days that she DOES. It just works out to where we very rarely have time to see each other. Believe me, if I could go out and see her every week, I would.

Get Skype, Thats how I stay in touch with my cousins in Germany.

At some point though, you guys need to spend significant time together. The entire point of a relationship is to get to know the other person well and see whether you’re compatible with them. And you simply can’t do that if you’re always apart.

If you don’t foresee being closer to her in the next few months or so, you’d probably be better off breaking off the relationship now. This could save both of you considerable time and trouble. (Imagine finally being with her after a year, and only then finding out that you weren’t really compatible with her for whatever reason!)

At least the internet is making things much easier for issues like this. I don’t think there is much you can do aside from letters, e-mails and presents. Find the next holiday you two are both free, do something special. Romantic meal, day trip out, anything you like so long as you both enjoy it. If she wants this as much as you do, she’ll reciprocate and make time for you. Hope you two are happy together.

i’ve been in a long distance relationship. but she was 2 states away and well i didn’t know what the hell i was doing. I had now way of actually seeing her except through a webcam. and eventually i screwed up and she never forgave me for what i did. but yeah scheduling days where you guys could see each other is pretty vital for success, i didn’t take my ex but a month before she found some guy she liked being around. when you can’t see each other some Ideas are : Web cams. and my friend had the brilliant Idea of sending her jacket to her boyfriend. If your artsy draw a really good pic for her. Write a song and send it too her if u r awesome. Try keep things interesting, and know your audience if you know what i mean. and i cannot stress the “know your audience” part enough.

Call her when you can. Have cell phones? Text her. I live three hundred miles from my boyfriend, and we’ve been together four years yesterday. I just recently got my license, and I’m saving up money so that I can drive down there.
But, an hour? Dude, that’s biking distance. I have a packed schedule, too, and people to take care of during the few hours I’m at home; I would not let such a silly thing as a schedule get in my way.
Maybe you can find a shortcut to get to her, or, you know, get a radar or something and speed there.
I’m just saying, make it as irl as you possibly can, long-distance is hard, and emotionally taxing.

@ Captain Hammock: If it’s really worth pursuing, you can be patient until the next time you see her. It’s going to hurt, yeah, but it’s an investment in a long term relationship. I know people, married people, who have survived much longer distances than an hour’s drive.