Bittersweet Candy Bowl

So nearing the end of my High School years I just noticed that I somehow didin’t get much romantic at all - sure that’s all and well plenty of people are down on there luck with love and such.

But the thing is… I personally DIDN’T get emotionally attached to… anyone - not on the Love manner, not a crush not a perk of the heart, nothing. So I’m just… I’m wondering - am I some sort of heartless monster incapable of love? I tried being interested and hitting on girls, but in the end it all felt fake to me, I was forcing myself to care what girls have to say or what they want to do and whatnot. Ground point is - I never felt in love, I never felt the ” butterflys in my guts”, did I just grow up to be a bitter person? Incapable to feel love?

Honestly I wouldn’t worry or care about it. You are fine.

Eh, I used to think the same. Enjoy it while it lasts, I’m telling you.

No, dear, you aren’t. There are plenty of people who don’t get crushes. If you felt like you were feigning interest, then you tried too hard to make something work the wrong way.

Also, the fact that you’re able to contemplate this shows that you aren’t a bitter person. Just give it time, and you will see - it will work out in the end. ^_^

Heh, you’re not alone, I’m well into college and I haven’t felt anything like it yet. Just because you don’t feel that type of love doesn’t mean you’re incapable of feeling love. Just keep living your life and you’ll meet someone eventually, and if you don’t, well I know a few people who say that they’re lives went just fine never settling down with a girl. You’ll be fine.

I’ve been in a school exclusively for boys since first grade (currently 4th year HS now) and I’m just glad I haven’t fallen for anyone in my school through all those years. Of course, I do have close friends but it does kinda suck that you can’t talk to the opposite sex (sans teachers) without going to a different school. So yeah, I’m pretty much still an alien as to how girls generally behave. This is also probably why I love slice-of-life comics. It gives me some sort of insight on what goes on in a coed school.

Yeah I miss co-eds too. Damn this backward narrow minded country!

i studied similar stories. i was the same way
the fact is you probably simply feel in your subconcious mind, you need to know someone to love them, and you wont think of people romantically until you love them.
if this makes any sense.

Girls, much like boys, are humans.

Chillax dude, you’re fine. When you find the right person, you WILL feel all those things that you describe. Patience is a virtue.

We all find love in some obscure manner. Trust me. Straight Fifteen years of no relationships, and what do I get? A relationship with a girl on MSN.

Bitches be crazy.

But in all seriousness, we each find our own way of finding somebody. Whether you be Hetero/Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, you’ll find that someone. Or my name isn’t Vent.

Which it is ._.

Sexuality and all that is a complicated thing, so there’s sadly no ‘one’ answer.

It’s possible that you’re asexual and won’t ever be interested in that sort of thing, it’s possible that you’re not ready for or looking for romance at your age which is fine, and it’s possible that, if you ever do end up love, you’d want it from a ‘friends first’ sort of source (rather than a ‘dating first’ ), and that you don’t see your current friends in that sort of way, and so you just haven’t met the right person.

There isn’t anything really ‘wrong’ for you. As long as you can be empathic and nice to people, it shouldn’t matter if you want to get in bed with them. Just keep doing what makes you happy, as long as you don’t hurt anybody, there isn’t any timer or clock you need to adhere to, like for ‘our’ sake or something.

I had only very limited emotional range until I was 17 or so. I didn’t have a serious crush until then. I’m 25 now, and I STILL haven’t been in a real relationship, and I don’t exactly regret it either. I am not willing to settle for less.

So no, you aren’t weird because you aren’t too interested in romance.

the thing I consider myself very interested in Romance… its just that I can’t seam to “get” romantic…

And suddenly you’re sounding more and more like me.

But that does not mean that there’s anything wrong, honey. ^_^

Just be yourself, and be patient. Things will come your way in time, I’m sure of it.

Someday, maybe you’ll meet someone that makes your heart beat faster just by talking to them and even if you don’t, you shouldn’t worry about being different anyway.

You are no more an emotionless monster than I am.

You literaly made a thred on the internet to ask “am I alone”
right there, Fuck You dumbass.
I am a seventeen year old boy who has never been on a date.
I am interested in the idea of reaching the levle of romance where my idea of happyness depends on anouthers idea of happyness and their needs and vise versa.
I have no interest in humans I meet on a day to day basis in a romantic manner.
I do find the sex act hot.
It couses a bit of a problem that I want the romance but I am only equiped for flings which I don’t want.
No one is ever alone. Even if everyone died,
by god there is the after life.
by science there is and infinite amount of space and time for whole dementions to form in.
You are lucky to be on this secluded form where you can’t be trolled to your death.
good day.

I’m just like you Simon. I wont let anyone take my heart! But allas all i need is friends!
I am not alone!

I recently noticed most of my friends have at one point or another had a relationship with another person, and it did seem odd. But really, I was the same way for a loooong while too. When I met this one girl my age I thought she nice, if spastic, and we became friends. Before then I’d never felt even slightly attracted to anyone I knew. But after a year or so, I did get a crush. Sadly, after I told her about it, she stopped being around me a little. It picked up essentially where we left off, as friends, but recently she moved several hundred miles south. But still, it just goes to show that love can strike whenever it wants.