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53/100 much better than what I used to be but I still need to have a stronger feeling of self-worth.

68/100 not bad

ReyOzymandias, on 08 August 2011 - 12:07 AM, said:

Thanks for the invite. Im surprised you got anywhere close to me. Can't wait for someone to get a 1 or 0. You'll need to get him/her into this exclusive club too...Tell them we have health benefits and a dental plan. Im not sure why you should. Just seems to work in every other group to get more members.

I scored 67/100.
You know, I would never have thought that people with low self esteem would post on forums...
I know you have anonymity and everything, but you eventually form a persona within that forum and have to worry about the opinions of the other members...
Or am I just thinking about this too much?

Yes! Yes you are.

88/100.

@Boringamus: Some come to forums so they can get away from lack of acceptance in real life. So in the end, even if they're not accepted, their train of thought is sort of like "well these are random people, let's just leave."

In the end, though, sadly, there are those masochistic people who just keep coming back to the forums that ridicule them. Of course, they'll be ridiculed basically everywhere they go, so yeah. What's one to do if they aren't accepted by anyone?

... This is all from an outside perspective, so what I say could be wrong. It's just what it looks like from what I saw.

Greid, on 08 August 2011 - 03:38 AM, said:

I got a 1 and two 0's.

Lux Aeterna, on 08 August 2011 - 02:39 PM, said:

You're reasonably close, actually. I have no idea why I came back to this forum after I completely lost it and got yelled at by a lot of people pretty hard. It's the same with a bunch of forums I go to. And even worse, I found a forum that actually didn't try to rip my nuts off, but I didn't feel comfortable there so I stopped.

some people just try to get the attention they wish they could have in real life

Which can be kind of bad sometimes because there's people with low self-esteem who genuinely have great personalities and just need a little push with self-confidence to find their place in the world, but then there's the ones desperate because you can get away with practically anything on the internet so they only pull a self-fulfilling prophecy by being unbearable in a forum trying to get attention and acceptance when they could be accepted if they just relaxed, but that's the problem in the first place.

I got 53/100
About what I expected

@ReyOzymandias: You just wanted acceptance. But that one uncommon instance seems to suggest that you felt strange actually being welcomed there. As though it wasn't what you were used to. So maybe you come back to this forum because you want stability or something, I don't know. Of course, when you say you didn't feel comfortable there, I'm not quite sure what you meant when you said that, so I could be off base.

@Taeshi: Totally. When I had much lower self-esteem it was always like "what if people don't like the real me?" So I hid behind a mask. One day someone came along that changed my way of thinking. I began to act like myself and people seemed to like me more that way. I also stopped caring what negative influences thought. Shame it took me roughly 16 years to realize that. >_>

Lux Aeterna, on 08 August 2011 - 10:12 PM, said:

Let me guess

ReyOzymandias, on 08 August 2011 - 04:05 PM, said:

Exactly. The more you're accepted, the more you start to care about the other member's opinions of you, people with low self-esteem would have to worry about something they say that would make those around them no longer accept them. That's why I don't see forums as the right place for those kinds of people. but again, maybe I just don't fully understand the issue and I'm thinking too hard.

Lux Aeterna, on 08 August 2011 - 10:12 PM, said:

I have the same problem, and I wish I had the balls to quit it.
Thing is, my "mask" involves being extremely self-assured, so tests like this are never accurate.

This post has been edited by Boringamus: 09 August 2011 - 02:36 AM

Jerk, on 08 August 2011 - 03:36 PM, said:

Some of these questions are wack.

'People will only respect me if I'm good-looking and/or successful.'
The answer is always yes, but the more important question is "Who the fuck cares?"

'People who criticize me do so because they dislike me or are jealous of me.'
Another question that depends. If it was "open and unwarranted criticism," then of course. If it was "comment on my story so I can improve it," then of course not. Stupid broad questions.
They also leave out the subtle yet important difference between "critique" and "criticism."

'Getting feedback on my performance, even if it is negative, can be helpful.'
Note the word "can." Of course, the answer is yes.

'I think that overall, people find me boring to talk to.'
Personally, It's more so that "their comprehendors cannot handle this level of mentalpower!"

'I will only form a friendship with someone if it benefits my status in some way.'
The loose definition of "status" makes this question a shot in the dark.

'It doesn’t bother me one bit if someone doesn’t like me.'
TOTALLY depends on the person. Some random stranger, no. Some jerk, no. Some possible love interest, then yes. What kind of a question is this?

'When someone rejects my ideas, I feel insulted.'
I feel like I have to say, "well, duh," considering they used the verb "rejected," which is quite the hostile word.

'I don’t care to know what other people really think of me.'
I don't give a shit. Shit makes a horrible gift.

'When I am angry or depressed, it’s hard for me to concentrate.'
How is ANYONE supposed to answer "no" unless they're never angry or depressed?

'It’s hard for me to shut off a disturbing thought.'
with the voice of Mickey Mouse.

'I never regret my decisions.'
Keyword: Never. You cannot select "strongly disagree." If you don't regret having cereal for breakfast this morning, you have eliminated that possibility.

I need no test to verify that I am wicked sick.

Still. 84. I won't let this go to my head, though. certain aspects of psychology are crock, and it doesn't help that it's a generalised, internet quiz that takes almost no time to fill out.



HEY JERK AND TOASTY AND KAXBE AND THE GANG;
YOU MAY WANT TO CHECK THESE OUT.

This post has been edited by Dr. Klaus: 09 August 2011 - 03:14 AM

36/100

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this kinda scares me with the fact people really like me. i honestly thought i would of had a more high 40s low 50s.

I didn't take the test because I didn't think I needed to. Your comments are all I need to see.
Besides, all I need to do is use a simple formula to calculate mine, and that:
Derp(derp+derpderpidy)2derp-derp √((derp)drp/derp*10derp)) ≈ Herpherpity/He+r(PT)

This post has been edited by toddymon: 09 August 2011 - 08:07 AM

You botched the parenthesis

Ah, yes you are right, Silly me. the real equation
Derp(derp+derpderpidy)2derp-derp √((derp)drp/derp*10derp) ≈ Herpherpity/He+r(PT) give or take a hurr.

What does derp squared plus derpX divided by herp equal? Sorry but this is funny!

You see, breaking down the equation, you can see what each portion means. The derp(erp+derdipidy) is meant to signify the location of your mcmaccary lobe, which is the source of all egotasticalness. Then the derp((derp)drp/derp*10derp)^1/2 tells you how much of a resonance you have with it in terms of static. Then the herpherpity/He+r(PT) Shows how many of these ego waves you recieve per brain cycle. See, its all fairly simple actually.

This post has been edited by toddymon: 09 August 2011 - 02:37 PM

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Uhhh

what?

learn2survey

That's why there's "sometimes agree", dimwit, because people are in a position where it can honestly depend, making that a sometimes thing, or a middle-ground thing. There are people out there who really do get affected if anyone expresses a dislike, whether it's some random off the street they will never see again, or a person they constantly see. I don't really know why you're overanalysing the test and being like "WELL IT MIGHT VARY" and it's like no shit Sherlock, that's why the question has about five proximities of what you can answer.

It's very lengthy because it's very thorough. I'm not saying that it's a definitive way to tell if you have the self-confidence issues, but it's a well-written test because it follows the standard of rephrasing questions similarly to gauge a more solid stance. There's a notable enough difference between "I seldom feel like I can't do anything" and "I often think I can't do anything"

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no

That's very presumptuous and ignorant because the thing is some people are so down on themselves that they really DO care, or even feel they're so worthless that people only look out for successful/pretty people and they don't feel they are that kind of person. For one to answer "A lot of the time" (which is how I answered it) could imply a shallow way of thinking, because nobody could like me for who _I_ am! And that's why there's altered versions of the question asking if you feel you are a successful person, because if you answer that you feel it's very important that you need to be good-looking/successful to be liked, but think you aren't very good-looking/successful, that would imply that you feel people don't respect you. There's a lot more to it. The questions blend together and build onto other questions.

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Jesus CHRIST.

Well guess what genius

that's why you say "sometimes"!!!!

You don't look at a test and just point out a few individual questions, you look at the test as something as a whole, because there is repetition and alteration in wording, and different circumstances of opinion about the same thing. There were multiple questions about criticism, with different takes on it, I do admit I found myself struggling with those in particular, because even though I take criticism very badly, it's because I want to improve immensely and I feel inadequate to have disappointed the person critiquing me, even if it's minor. It becomes personal, and that's how some of the questions phrased it. There's a difference between thinking the critique isn't worth your time because you think there's something wrong with the critiquer, and you take it badly because you feel there's something wrong with you.

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should i really bother again

it sure is sad there wasn't a choice that says "sometimes"

OH WAIT LOL

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sounds pretty clear-cut to me. The person doesn't really care about having intimate friendships and only really find friendships for gain. Sorry you didn't understand the question????

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You can reject an idea without being personal. You could have a story idea get rejected by a person because of the flaws they see, i've had people throw ideas at me via e-mail in hopes I could make a chapter based on it, and I would reject it because I don't use fan-suggestions. It's nothing personal, but it's a rejection. A person can either be all "Oh I guess that's fair enough" but have such little self-confidence that their work is ingrained in the person themselves, so if you're against their work that OBVIOUSLY means you're against the person.

So someone like TD would think "Well no whatever, it happens"

But I would think "SHIT I DID SOMETHING WRONG OH MY GOD"

sorry for tl;dr, but it really annoys me when people take tests like these which are basically like experimental surveys, and then act like hot-shots because it's like "DURP DURP WHY DID THEY ASK THE SAME QUESTION, UGHH SOMETIMES THE QUESTION WAS TOO VAGUE I MEAN IT DEPENDS YOU KNOW IT'S NOT AS EASY AS THAT" and I'm thinking well that's why there was 76 fucking questions, because surveys will have a habit of asking similar questions in hope of scoping out the range of what you really think, and trying to cover the grounds. A test like this should be seen as something as a whole, rather than pointing out a question or two that was "too dumb lol" when in reality it was another branch of several other questions that in whole, would make it pretty clear how you are as a person.

I studied this in class back in America, and used to go take surveys to help institutions, and I do feel this test is relatively well-written because it's very broad in subjects and tries to cover all corners, I guess if I paid for the fuller results it probably would have said stuff about more specific things like criticism and self-image and that sort of thing, I mean I'm not saying this is the way to find out your self-esteem, but it has been made well because of the amount of questions and even the amount of time that's recommended. You're supposed to consider the options, that's why there's five ranges of how you can answer.

Dr. Klaus, on 09 August 2011 - 02:49 AM, said:

Didn't take the other test because I know I don't get angry often (and because I saw "abridged"), but I took this one. I'll just throw everything in a spoiler since it's not directly related to the thread.



Anyway, Dr. Klaus, I'm not gonna repeat everything that Taeshi said. So I'll just say this... instead of whining about the test to everyone, how about you just not take it and not complain about it? /shrug

EDIT: For laughs I took the anger test anyway and got a 0/100. Go figure.

This post has been edited by Lux Aeterna: 09 August 2011 - 03:58 PM

Did you know you can donate one or all of your vital organs to the Apeture Science self-esteem fund for girls. Its true!!! I got 72 yay?

These questions were so vague that there is no way anyone would be able to choose certain responses, leaving them to only select a single answer. So why put in a question when (almost) everyone will pick the same answer?

I must have high self-confidence, or at least disregard for other people. Perhaps I'm a mild sociopath of sorts.

That would explain a lot. Is there a sociopathic test at that site?

I got an 89. Not too bad if I say so myself. Screw the people who try to bring me down. I am Forever non-depressed.

there is a way people would choose different responses. Contrary to popular belief, world doesn't revolve around you.

Taeshi, on 10 August 2011 - 11:52 PM, said:

Tee-hee, what if life allowed you to select different choices like a dating simulator?



(Wow! I didn't mean to write all that... *amazed* Maybe I'm getting my talent back in action. ) That would be kind of interesting though...

EDIT: By that, I mean have stuff shown in front of you. Like you can chose from it.

This post has been edited by DMLD96: 11 August 2011 - 03:37 AM

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Life does. It's just not text-based.

This post has been edited by Dr. Klaus: 11 August 2011 - 03:36 AM

You do have choices in front of you and you can choose from them, assuming you're not an autistic, tactless idiot who can't read a fucking situation.

I'm talking more about stuff like Persona. Some people need the assistance of that to actually communicate well with others.

DMLD96, on 12 August 2011 - 07:49 PM, said:

I'd be interested to know how you know this, unless you know someone who visually sees the choices in front of them, during life.

Lux Aeterna, on 12 August 2011 - 08:30 PM, said:

I simply assess the situation quickly and determine the proper course of action.

Although, I do wish that in real life you can select "Let's be just friends and not romantic partners" like you can in P4. Why? 'Cuz I just wanna be friends with certain people while they love me in a way I don't love them back in.

I got 83 and this is what it said.
Your results indicate that your sense of self-worth is very healthy. You rarely, if ever, put yourself down or fall victim to self-depreciating statements. There are certain attitudes and beliefs that have been found to contribute to and "feed" a positive self-image, and you appear to have most of them. Examples would be believing that you deserve to be loved or respected, believing that you're good enough for someone, and focusing on your good qualities rather than only your perceived faults. While you may not necessarily feel all of these things all of the time, your opinion of yourself is quite positive. This is a healthy attitude to have, as a poor sense of self-worth can hold you back from pursuing your goals, cause you unnecessary stress, and even become self-fulfilling prophecies.
This is pretty accurate.

@DMLD: ... That's what most people do subconsciously, you know? Take "Hello" as a simple example. You make the decision in a split second and say your greetings back. Or not, depending on how mad you are.

... Then tell them that? Life doesn't exactly restrict you from doing it. In fact, it doesn't do the whole "you wanted to say this but you didn't have enough COMMON SENSE" thing. lolhiimdaisy

This post has been edited by Lux Aeterna: 13 August 2011 - 04:35 PM

what
That's kind of a surprise.

76/100

Seems right to me

53/100

Unnacceptable! I deserve at least a 57!

Lux Aeterna, on 13 August 2011 - 04:35 PM, said:

I prefer to keep things simple. I talk when it seems right for me. If someone says, "Hello," I greet them back. I don't really talk much, unless there is something I really wanna say. If someone hits on me, I break down what I know about that person and the situation.

This post has been edited by DMLD96: 16 August 2011 - 01:38 AM

So what you are saying is that you look at your options and then you choose the one which makes the most sense to you? I can really see where the whole 'no choice' thing comes into this.

Scored 87/100. I'd say higher than I expected but, that's not entirely true. I'm a closet narcissist.

52... looking at other peoples my score looks pretty good. for an introverted guy who's soulmate is his computer. not bad.

Taeshi, on 08 August 2011 - 04:15 PM, said:

i'm an attention whore. thats kind of what drives me to do all my art. is it the same for u Taeshi?

This post has been edited by Meleeman: 16 August 2011 - 07:28 AM

I don't need some silly survey to tell me how awesome I am, so I think I score something like 9000/100

brb, doing survey due to boredom

I got 71. I'm confident in myself, but a bit of a klutz and really don't care about improving myself (I have low standards), so it's fair.

DMLD96, on 16 August 2011 - 01:37 AM, said:

That sounds like a bad fanfic.

This post has been edited by skmojo: 16 August 2011 - 08:26 AM

42. Not bad, not bad at all.

What can I say. I considered myself a genious until I got to college : D

Bumping to see more people take the test.

66/100
Oh my gosh.. i need to stop being a failure and start being a winner

48/100...



"You sometimes put yourself down, falling victim to your own self-depreciating statements" true

And the Hostility vs. Kindness Test

13/100

This post has been edited by Gabu: 05 October 2011 - 10:14 AM

Wow, I saw some low scores there...
I thought: "What's going on?"

But I took the test myself, and unexpectedly...
39/100
I thought I'd get above 50