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The potential of being rejected by others as a result of who you are or what you do is constantly on your mind. You likely go out of your way to attain the approval of others. Rejection by the people in your life would be a serious blow to your self-esteem, and may be something you have experienced before. While this may be a difficult concept to swallow, you need to realize that the only approval you should be worried about is your own - and that the potential for rejection starts with you. If you don't respect and approve of yourself, you project an image to others that says "I am not worthy, I am not good enough for you", which can result in the very rejection you fear.

Your overall anger score appears to fall in the "normal" range. This means that you get angry in some situations but aren't the type to blow up all the time. You seem to have struck a balance between accepting the occasional flash of temper and not letting yourself get overly worked up. You realize that sometimes, it's just not worth the headache. This is generally a very healthy approach, as suppressing your anger or getting swept up in it are equally harmful to your health and your relationships.

You seldom address the issues that concern you the most. Whether it's noisy neighbors or perhaps a raise you feel you deserve, you usually wait for someone else to bring it up. When someone treats you poorly, you often hesitate to speak openly. Letting people know you disagree with them is difficult since you generally lack self-assurance. However, if you act like you deserve respect, others will treat you accordingly.

Overall Results (score 50)


Overall level of self-esteem

Your self-esteem is in the mid-range, which leaves room for growth. Although some insecurity is normal, it certainly can't hurt to give your sense of self a boost. The long-term benefits are numerous, including increased confidence, better relationships, less anxiety, and an overall improved sense of well-being. You may have already noticed how your self-esteem can hold you back on some occasions, whether it's hesitating to take that job, ask for a promotion, pursue a relationship, or generally withholding yourself from life experiences as a result of self-doubt. The good news is that your self-esteem is at a decent level, so improvement will not be an extremely long process of re-building. Review the advice section for some helpful tips.

Sense of Self-Efficacy (score 41)


Assesses whether you believe you have what it takes to succeed.

You possess a relatively strong sense of self-efficacy when it comes to your ability to accomplish things in life, but you are plagued by doubts from time to time. There are likely some situations that you are worried you will mess up. Allowing these doubts to chip away at your self-assurance could hold you back from accomplishing the very things you wish to do. Remember that skills can be improved and weaknesses can turn into strengths when you put the effort into it. You probably know, deep down, that you have the ability to succeed when you really set your mind to something.

Ability to Deal with Rejection (score 69)


Assesses whether you tend to fear and internalize rejection.

You generally don't concern yourself too much about being rejected by others, although it does cross your mind from time to time. However, you don't really seem to be the type to bend over backwards in order to get and keep other people's approval - at least not too often. Rejection by the people in your life may very well hurt you and may be something you have experienced before, but you try not to let it affect how you feel about yourself. Although you likely know this, the only approval you should be worried about is your own. Moreover, when you respect and approve of yourself, you are more likely to project an image to others that says "I am worthy, and I have much to offer to someone."

Ability to Deal with Criticism (score 56)


Assesses whether you tend to internalize criticism and take it personally.

Negative criticism from others can result in a little bruising to your self-esteem. You likely try to remain objective and to not take it personally, but it can still hurt. Realize that everyone is criticized from time to time, but rather than viewing it as proof that you are incompetent, try to see it as a potential lesson to be learned (i.e. areas you can improve). This change of perspective will require time however, and a conscious effort to look at the critic and critique from a big picture viewpoint. Also, recognize that some people will criticize out of spite, no matter what you do.

Feeling Loved by Others (score 34)


Degree to which you feel appreciated and accepted by others.

Your responses allude to the fact that in general, you don't feel very loved by others. This may stem from the fact that you don't believe that you have all that much to offer, and that no matter what you do, people will continue to overlook you. There are two potential issues that may be at work here: Either the support system you have isn't very supportive of you, or the way you feel about yourself is impacting how others view you in turn. As simple as it may seem, it can be very difficult for people to love you if you don't love yourself all that much. Remember, how you feel about yourself should not depend on how others feel about you - this will only create a very unstable and fragile self-esteem that will fluctuate tremendously depending on others' feelings. A compliment will give you an easy boost...a negative comment or reaction from others will shatter your self-image in one fell swoop. This isn't a roller coaster ride that you want to feel on a daily basis. If your self-esteem is dependent upon what others think of you, it is time to rebuild your image on a sounder foundation. As you learn to love yourself more, you'll be surprised at how differently people will treat you (or how differently you WANT others to treat you).

The potential of being rejected by others as a result of who you are or what you do tends to be at the back of your mind. Although you may not live with the constant fear of being tossed away by people in your life, you may sometimes go out of your way to attain the approval of others. And this approval does matter to you, at least to some degree. Rejection by the people in your life may not shatter your self-image, but it would be quite a blow that could lead to self-doubt, discouragement, and humiliation. Realize that the only approval you should be worried about is your own - and that the potential for rejection actually starts with you. If you don't fully respect and approve of yourself, you project an image to others that says "I am not worthy, I am not good enough for you", which can result in the very rejection you fear.

According to your score, you appear to be very good roommate material. You seem to be well aware of the rules of roommate "etiquette", and understand well the golden law of "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". You respect and communicate with your roommate(s), and when difficulties arise, you are willing and able to compromise. Although this doesn't mean you'll never have conflicts with your roommate(s), your score does indicate that you'll most likely deal with them in a healthy manner. Just make sure however, that you aren't pushing this whole etiquette thing a little too far. If you find yourself having to constantly pick up the slack when it comes to chores or paying bills, then your roommate may be taking a little more from your "cohabitation relationship" than she/he is giving.

The potential of being rejected by others as a result of who you are or what you do tends to be at the back of your mind. Although you may not live with the constant fear of being tossed away by people in your life, you may sometimes go out of your way to attain the approval of others. And this approval does matter to you, at least to some degree. Rejection by the people in your life may not shatter your self-image, but it would be quite a blow that could lead to self-doubt, discouragement, and humiliation. Realize that the only approval you should be worried about is your own - and that the potential for rejection actually starts with you. If you don't fully respect and approve of yourself, you project an image to others that says "I am not worthy, I am not good enough for you", which can result in the very rejection you fear.