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If both of you know that you're not ready to date until later, then I don't see what the problem is. Just be friendly to her for now without going overboard. If you still have an interest in her next year or whenever, then you can pursue her. (So long as she's not mistreating you à la Lucy.)

falconboy99 said:

Surprisingly, yes.

wacko, on 11 December 2012 - 03:11 PM, said:

Actually it happens a lot more often then most people think. It is like a variation of the "opposites attract effect" that states that people with opposite personalities end up being attracted to each other. If you want examples think of the ending couples of the movie: The Breakfast Club.

Going back to the direct topic of the thread, I believe there is certain amount of time that a person thinks and remembers about a past loved one before they start to have them fade from their direct thought. Normal people do not mourn for prolonged amounts of time, and usually begin to stop thinking about them after about a year. Now in the terms of people who have died they will of course be mourning and remembering for a longer time, sometimes even lasting for the rest of their lives.

regularpatron, on 11 December 2012 - 03:44 PM, said:

Dude, you can't use a fictional movie as referential evidence for real life situations.

CaptainBaconMan, on 11 December 2012 - 04:22 PM, said:

Sorry I stand corrected. It is just a common known occurrence in life and in movies and media that opposites do attract to each other. Breakfast Club was just the first thing to come to mind. Do you know of any examples of opposites attracting that really did happen in real life?

It's not really a case of opposites attracting. If I dislike someone, there's usually a reason for it. And I am the type of person whose opinions of someone can be coloured for a long time because of some incident or other (kinda like Mike!). Hence if I happen to find myself doing a complete about-face, then it seems surprising to me. Although I really shouldn't be: after all, people and circumstances do change over time.

yes. Because ive never gotten that close to someone.

Imagine having to see her every day still...and having her pretend you don't exist...being ignored is the hardest part of life since we broke up.
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This post has been edited by TheDude: 29 January 2013 - 08:38 AM

Im now thinking about the girl at the doller store by my hosue whith a cute face,slim body and nice rack.

Regrets? Sure, of course. Had to be done though, my largest regret is letting it go on for that long. Thankfully I had wacko to talk me through it, otherwise it could of gone on for god knows how long.

This post has been edited by Rex: 04 February 2013 - 01:39 PM