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I was wondering what opinions some of you had regarding the various forms of birth control there are based on what you know/personal experiences. I ask because I'm pretty sure most of my friends don't have sex lives and it would be just awkward asking out of the blue (so I'll ask random strangers on the internet!). I'm asking out of curiosity more than anything.

I'm not referring to "natural methods" like abstinence, pulling out or keeping track on a calendar when you're mostly likely not to become pregnant so your man doesn't have to use a condom (I know people who exist because of these "methods" ), just the medical/pharmaceutical stuff. Or hell, if you're curious about something, just ask about it! You might learn something that may prevent any unwanted pregnancy.

There are so many kinds (stats on what I could remember from Planned Parenthood):

• condoms 150/1000 chance of getting pregnant (used right) fuck it
  
• "the pill"
  
• the patch
  
• spermicides
  
• diaphragms
  
• depo needles 1/1000
  
• IUD's (copper or hormonal) 8/1000
  
• sterilization 1/1000
  
• vasectomy 1/1000
  
• etc.

Personally: I started to strongly dislike condoms just because they're too damn thick to feel anything after a while. Early in our relationship, after we started having sex, she tried the pill but it didn't work right because of her medications. The girlfriend tried the depo needle once and it was great for the first month, but then horrendous side effects took hold that lasted for the better part of a year. Always used condoms, but now we're looking to the IUD at the end of the month. I don't know why she wants to try it, something about wanting me to get as much pleasure as I can instead of her just having all the fun. I'm a little nervous for her, but the nurse is very experienced in this sort of thing.

Also, I'd prefer this not become some dumbass debate about religious bullshit or abortions.
And no, I am not just making this thread so I can talk about my sex-life, I do that everywhere else anyway.

This post has been edited by ChewySmokey: 16 October 2011 - 04:41 PM

you forgot to mention abortion and infanticide. These are great, 100% fail proof methods of contraception.

Only cheap condoms are thick. Spend more than a dollar on it and you get some good stuff.

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this statistic I don't believe in. A lot of people use "the condom broke" as a cheap excuse so they don't have to admit that they were bloody stupid and didn't use one. Condoms don't just break unless you've done it wrong. the things are pretty damn resistant.
TBH i only done it once without the condom and I was so freaken scared the whole time it was very awkward. But they are definitely the best option. not only for contraception but also protection against STDs.

Well, asexual I may be, other then the first time, I've next to always used condoms. I'm fairly certain they suck, they decrease spontaneous sex and feeling and such, but I don't care much because I don't really care about my orgasm ( shocking, no?). Personally, the best contraception I've used was back when we started. She'd never had a period. No baby without eggs. 3 months we didn't bother with condoms or anything.

Btw, condoms get expensive with no job and when you hide them from your parents. Disposing of them is a pain too. But they are highly effective and will protect from STDs.

This post has been edited by memyselfandi: 16 October 2011 - 10:41 AM

Migrant, on 16 October 2011 - 10:08 AM, said:

Totally agree with you there.

With my GF at first we used the "pull out" method (as in, I pulled out ) kinda awkward but even if it's the thinner condom on the market, it's not the same.
Then we used condoms for a while (and I did tried to buy the thinnest I could find, regardless of the money) and then she started to take contraception pills. We pool our money 50/50 for the pills and that's that.
I do sometimes bitch about buying the pills because they are kinda pricey and because of college and stuff we don't do it as often as we used to (mind you, we've been together for almost 3 years) so money-wise it's more convenient to use condoms but she said that when she's in her period, if she's taking the pill it causes less pain than without the pill (we even tried it once) so we stick with the pill and there we are =P

Sometimes I still feel bad about the money spent on the pills, but on the long run it's times cheaper than getting her pregnant.

Condoms are gay. Thick condoms feel no good and thin ones break. I suppose I didn't try every variety, but I got the impression that you pay for thinness.

I don't see why all the other stuff matters, unless the girl is a medical nightmare. The pill has worked fine for Vero and I for a long time. Sometimes I worry because it's supposedly 99% effective, and I assume we've had risky contact more than 99 times, but so far it has all been okay.

Pulling out is retarded as a contraceptive method, and ruins things also!

I had an ex-girlfriend who used the shot as birth control. She gained one hundred pounds and then got pregnant anyway. That was pretty funny.

Ideally, the pill and then you celebrate the thousandth time you and your significant other have sex with an abortion. Then go have sex another thousand times.

I seriously feel so bad for women who can't take the pill because of terrible side effects. The pill is just.. a life-saver. It's amazing. To be honest, there's actually different versions of the pill, so I'm sure if one doesn't work and screws up the woman fierce, she could see a doctor and find another brand? You gotta get prescribed certain kinds of contraceptive depending on your weight, etc. Some people need higher doses, that sort of thing. I remember one of my friends was on the same pill as I was until she gained a considerable amount of weight, and had to grab a different brand.

I have had no issues with the pill, the only difference it has made is made my period less awful, and come on man, that's AWESOME. I think that's one of the givens for the pill, which is why I think it's kind of dumb for people to think you should only be taking the pill if you're sexually active. If you don't have sex, you should not just stop taking the pill. It's a great habit to get into, and it lessens your periods. I used to have like.. the first day or so REALLY BAD WITH CRAMPS and now I don't ever really get them. It's great.

.. though i do envy the women who get bigger breasts as a side effect if only.

ps: condoms are lame and awful, I mean yeah they're fine if that's all you can afford/protecting from STDs, but I dunno I think I'm in enough of a stable relationship to know Souppy's not gonna surprise me with AIDS or whatever. It's so much more intimate and romantic and cool if it's without, besides they can actually break >8( YOU JUST HAVEN'T LOVED ENOUGH

I just realize he left out vasectomy.

And then I realized that I'm the closest one here to actually be a candidate for it.

And then I realized that I am old.

Migrant, on 16 October 2011 - 10:08 AM, said:

I think I've spent up to $20 for a box of 10, so how's $2 each for ya?

SuitCase, on 16 October 2011 - 03:16 PM, said:

I've tried ribbed, studded, extra large knob (hurt like a bitch for some reason), tight, regular, extra thin and "climax control" over the last 4 years of our sexual activity. It all barely does anything different from regular condoms, so I always ended up going back to Trojan that comes with spermicidal lube (spermicide was out of paranoia when we first started all dem years ago, but now it's just the brand I use). The very first condom I put on broke, and it was just to see what it felt like on my dick. In short, I find LifeStyle to be bullshit and Trojan to be more comfortable, but the both suck for pleasure.
She epileptic, Suit, EVERYTHING gets fucked by her epilepsy meds. The depo needle felt like a god-send after the first month of no rubber, but then it was followed by a year of daily spotting (no exaggeration, she always needed tampons everyday), only on the "lighter" days did I dare still my man-sausage in there.

Taeshi, on 16 October 2011 - 04:04 PM, said:

We tried about 2 different brands of the pill, 1 at 2 different doses and the second 1 at different dose as well, all results were heavy spotting and the doc was all like "nope". The doctor was also a foreign moron who wouldn't listen and would say "Then you shouldn't have taken it" when she's the one who recommended and prescribed it. I've heard of girls taking the pill just to help with acne, though weight gain was a side effect "Oh hey, your face is clear but now you're fat, fatty!" I'm also in a secure enough relation with a woman who pretty much worships the ground I walk on that I can trust that she too will not surprise me with something nasty.

Jerk, on 16 October 2011 - 04:08 PM, said:

It's up there now, happy? I'll have to get one if we have 2 kids, and since she's epileptic that's a pretty big fucking if

This post has been edited by ChewySmokey: 16 October 2011 - 05:13 PM

Sterilize the Human Race
Eliminate overpopulation

SOLVED

*please note mild sarcasm*

This post has been edited by Dr. Klaus: 16 October 2011 - 05:54 PM

Dr. Klaus, on 16 October 2011 - 05:54 PM, said:

soooo... don't like condoms?

Dr. Klaus, on 16 October 2011 - 05:54 PM, said:

This is why we can't have serious discussions about eugenics and population control:



FUCK YOU, CHARLIE CHAPLIN.

I love my pills. They make me hate life only four times a year now as recommended by my vaginadoctor. I would probably get the 3-year capsule if it weren't the fact that your body might forget to restart releasing eggs and you'll end up infertile, which would largely interfere with my intention to spawn the most adorable little human sprout one day. Unlikely, but possible.
Also pills do not directly cause weight gain, or make your tits bigger, or make you lay golden eggs.

But you know as I don't need birth control I can't really say. Penises are nasty, that's enough birth control for me.

Karo, on 16 October 2011 - 06:14 PM, said:

You could see a fertility clinic about having some eggs preserved on the off-chance that happens. You could find a surrogate, sperm donor or hold out for that technology that let them fertilize one egg with another if you end up in a long-term committed relationship. I'll be honest, I don't know much about biology, but I still think it's a good idea to keep your options open.

Me having children will be a fertility clinic matter anyway, so I'm not worried per se. Currently my pills come cheaper and aren't much of a hassle, I can also stop them anytime whereas getting the capsule removed would be more of a hassle. Also I'm terrified of having eggs harvested, apparently it's a rather painful ordeal.
But yeah currently I'm very happy with my pills.

in all seriousness, the pill is what would be ideal for my relationship, becuase condoms can break or fail.

This post has been edited by Chris: 16 October 2011 - 08:00 PM

@ Karo: Well if it works so well for you and you're not riding any protein pistols anyway, then I'm happy for you at least. But really, when I talk about a lot of fertility procedures, I'm speaking from ignorance. I figure I'm kind of an old hand at painful operations and I don't know what they do to harvest eggs, but I know enough to know that the only thing worse than a painful ordeal is a relatively unnecessary painful ordeal. Or if you didn't want to go through any of that convoluted mess, I guess you could adopt? Again, I apologize for my ignorance: I don't know the general laws about adoptions to anyone but heterosexual couples in the United States, much less where you live.

@ Chris: Abstinence as a birth control policy is about as realistic as a white male bearded God who sends people to burn eternally for not accepting a dead Jew as his only son.

You shan't worry, Jerk. As of right now we can't adopt, it'll come down to how the laws change if they do, and I'm pretty sure they will. Adamant as I am though, I'll primarily aim to producing a little Karoling with my own DNA. Selfish, yes, terribly so.
I have a friend who had the capsule and she's been a lucky sob, not having had her period for year and a half. Alas, I also know a less a lucky sob, who instead bled a good three months straight.
As per my fertility, I'm mildly worried, but as fertility doesn't seem to be a problem in my family from either bloodline, I might well be safe.

Pills aren't 100% either, you have to be very good at taking them at the same time of the day each day (within I think a three hour window?). Your best bet is combined birth control. If you're not big on condoms (and neither you nor your partner have STDs or contagious infections) you could have hormonal birth control and spermicides for example.

Jerk, on 16 October 2011 - 08:01 PM, said:

:|
I was joking.
poking fun at religion.

This post has been edited by Chris: 16 October 2011 - 08:42 PM

Always used a condom, but I grew bored of sex pretty quick, so it's a non-issue in my life. I find many kinds of contraception questionable, anyway. I'd rather just not have sex unless it's for procreation.

ReyOzymandias, on 16 October 2011 - 08:47 PM, said:

Welp. Jerk, seems like someone wants to prove you wrong.

My girlfriend is terrified of getting pregnant, so much to our chagrin we have to use condoms, and she also wants to be on the pill 'just in case'. It does suck, but I don't mind some inhibited sensation as much as the lack of spontaneity of having to put one on, especially when it breaks up the foreplay. We're still long distance though, so we haven't had to worry about that in a while, or at least until Samsung makes webcams capable of transmitting love liquids.

Thank God she's into oral, and agrees that needing a condom for that is stupid.

@ Karo: Even if you don't adopt, the laws right now are such shit. Not trying to white-knight or anything I've just been getting a lot more politically active lately about this kind of thing. So, having basically ruled out egg-harvesting, are you saying you'd prefer just to have a little clone of yourself? I wouldn't blame you, of course, but that's because I'm a narcissist and have no right to comment.

@ Chris: Religion is the joke, death is the punchline.

@ Esalaka: As much as I'm inclined to agree that everyone wants to prove me wrong at some point, I have no idea why you'd think Rey is trying to argue with me just because he practices sex like the Amish.

oh man i remember a time i was a two-contraceptive kind of gal. Paranoia up the wazoo. "OH MY GOD IT'S NEAR ME EVEN WITH A CONDOM AND I'M NOT ON THE PILL I'M GONNA CRY AND PANIC UNTIL I FINALLY REACH BLEEDING TIME AND THEN I WON'T FLIP ANYMORE"

then i realised having it without a condom was so freaken AWESOME

and i thought nuts to that

I had to teach a girl how to masturbate over the phone once, and she wasn't a virgin but apparently her hymen hadn't broken yet. So she eventually has an orgasm or two and then she starts flipping out because she is bleeding everywhere. And she's panicking and I'm trying to stay calm but I'm panicking too because it hadn't occurred to either of us that her boyfriend hadn't broken her hymen during sex (because the hymen has a weird was of showing up pretty much anywhere in the vagina).

Or her boyfriend was just tiny as hell

Ps oh god teaching how to do that through the phone, you lead a carbon-copy life Jerkchan

As much as I enjoy it without a rubber, it can be a little rough on the skin at first. Does anyone else wear one for the first little while, then take it off when their ready to finish? I figure that's what I'll do when this IUD this is inserted... that, or more foreplay.

Jerk, on 16 October 2011 - 10:27 PM, said:

oh wow, that must have been quite the task, not being face-to-face and all. I can kinda sorta almost maybe empathize.
I remember before the GF and I start humping like jack rabbits I'd learned how to finger her like a pro. One day, after an exceptionally long session of fingering, she was bleeding a lot. I panicked like crazy! I thought I had shredded her insides but really I had broken the hymen. She didn't seem to be worried

This post has been edited by ChewySmokey: 16 October 2011 - 10:52 PM

Taeshi, we both REALLY wanna be just on the pill, but she hasn't gotten it yet, and it'd take her a while to get used to the idea I think. She's still pretty young, she doesn't wanna risk it. How much of a difference is there for a gal?

I always panic about bleeding and the like, and so does she because she only ever has anything inside her when it's me. Masturbation was always a strictly clit business for her, and with the long distance thing we haven't explored penetration as much as we 'd want to. Plus, there's a big size difference between us. I constantly have to make sure I'm not hurting her or going too rough. Think Beauty and the Beast, before the transformation, and also the Beast is fat. >_>

TBH it's kind of an ego stroke for some reason whenever my little lady tells me she bled a little after sex, it's almost the same as complaining that she can't sit right for a while. She doesn't mind, I guess I just like being rough with her.

My older brother seems to just stick with the condoms, although I would say that I lean on birth control more.

I'm not exactly crazy enough to try and go into an in depth discussion with him on it

Jerkchan more like Jerk-kun

And there's our masturbation joke for the day. Good one crow.

The pills are great as long as your partner doesn't 'accidentally' forget to take it daily. I roll with the "Until you know that she is the one, stick with the glove."

Haha, I got this image in my head of your girlfriend shouting "PUNCH IT CHEWEY!" during sex.

I'm not very big compared to the rest of me, I'm average length but still have to wear Magnums for girth, otherwise I can't get the damn things all the way on. So yeah, I do get that ego boost sometimes if she 'can't move' for a while afterwards, or when I wanna go again right after and she needs at least 10 minutes (plenty of time for more fooling around, so I don't mind). Nothing boosts the ego more than when this usually super shy awkward girl just forgets she's shy and talks about how much she likes my equipment

ThatGuy I didn't make a masturbation joke I'm making fun of Japanese honorifics way to ruin everything by thinking about masturbation all the time.

Easy now, don't get too mad at me, at least ask the others who read your post what they thought it meant. We're on a friendly discussion in here after all.

Anyone know the chances of an experienced nurse botching an IUD procedure and the girl bleeding out? I'm really nervous about this, I shouldn't be because the nurse is super experienced and it's 2 weeks away, but damn I'm worried. The GF isn't, oddly enough.

Purin, on 16 October 2011 - 11:22 PM, said:

"No glove, no love."

Bourbon, on 16 October 2011 - 11:23 PM, said:

This post has been edited by ChewySmokey: 16 October 2011 - 11:32 PM

I tried to look it up for you Chewy but oddly enough the only results I got were on IUI procedures, or artificial insemination

ThatGuy, on 16 October 2011 - 11:32 PM, said:

yeah, I can't seem to find anything either. no news is good news?

One interesting thing I've read is that on the Internet people will displace their emotions on what they read, so if they get mad they'll assume the provocateur is mad too.
tl;dr I made ThatGuy mad

"IUDs have undergone many improvements. The new generation of Copper IUDs have high success rates and are popularly used worldwide. It is little wonder that the WHO (World Health Organization) and AMA (American Medical Association) have rated IUD as one of the safest and effective and reversible birth control measure for women."

Perserverance has led me to your good fortune

got it from here Birth Control IUD

Taeshi, on 16 October 2011 - 10:41 PM, said:

I wasn't actually teaching her. I mean, she knew how to masturbate, I just told her things I'd tried on another girl that worked really well. It also doesn't hurt if you know where the G-spot is.

I also don't know what you mean by carbon-copy life but...thanks? Sorry, I'm addled as Hell today.

Seppucrow, on 16 October 2011 - 11:36 PM, said:

Wait what? I only assumed you were mad when you said I ruined your honorifics joke. But then you say I'm mad

Well now I'm confused.

Since when is it a requirement to be angry to say "You ruin everything."
Try saying that in real life. Notice how you don't have to get mad to say it?

o___ o

Right then. Whatever you say crow.

now now guys, lets not derail too far off topic now

Trying not to. Did the info I picked up help you at all?

Just make sure you use birth control, especially you two.

This post has been edited by Purin: 16 October 2011 - 11:51 PM

Agreed, but which two are you referring to?

You and Crow, obviously.