I've personally been on the pill for a little over three years and for the most part it has gone great. I used to be really paranoid, too, and would use condoms + pill. My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years though and we're each others' first, so we're not concerned about STDs or anything. My boyfriend and I talked about sex for a good three years before considering birth control. If you have/had multiple partners, you always want to use the condom even though it may not necessarily be as comfortable. Having multiple partners increases the chance of getting an STD. I also always try to keep Plan B on hand just in case, but I've always done my best to be careful.
I'm thinking of switching over to the patch simply because I'm tired of taking the pill every day, and having to get it filled at a pharmacy. I hear terrible things about depo (the shot) and haven't heard of anyone personally that has had good luck with it. IUDs are also recommended for women who have had children because complications are less likely. Like someone said though, it's not a requirement and totally dependent on how your doctor interprets your health history and current life styles. The issue with IUDs is that sometimes they can perforate through the uterus or cause other infections. They are rare and unlikely but it can still happen.
Researchers are actually looking into birth control for men (besides the condom), such as the male pill. It's supposed to reduce sperm count to 0, and is reversible like the female pill. I don't know too much about it right now but it would be great for there to be more options for men, seeing as I feel that women go through more for the sake of sexual health. Sure, both men and women have physicals and exams and what not, but women have to go through things like pelvic exams and getting pap smears, which were terribly painful for me until years later. :S
This post has been edited by Aika: 05 December 2011 - 11:30 PM