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A new year means a fresh start and a clean slate for many. For others, it is a reminder of aging in a more apprehensive perspective. For me, it is a little bit of everything. The usual routine of making resolutions (then the usual routine of breaking them within the first week of January), the worrying, etc.

A more uncommon thing I dwell on every year is mistakes I have made, or chances I wish I should have taken. These "mistakes" or chances aren't necessarily confined within the previous year, but my entire life. I am a pisces, and tend to think a lot, usually about nothing in particular or about stupid things that most people don't give a second thought on. I just bring that up to give some reasoning towards making this thread.

Anyways, if you are interested in posting about a specific thing in your life that you wish you could have changed for a better outcome, or maybe a story on that blind date offer you were kicking yourself for not taking up on...then..this is what this thread is all about. I'm sure many people have something, serious or hilarious, that has been in the back of their mind for some time. If not..I envy you lol.

If you don't want to talk about yourself, pretend you are a bcb character if that works for you, and go off their mistakes.

TL;DR: blah blah blah intro, blah blah post your life mistakes, blah blah unless you are perfect. and sorry if this is the 100th time something like this has been posted.
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I'll lead off...

I was quite the trouble maker in school. Nothing really serious, but always in some sort of mischief. Once amidst an unforgiving student body demographic, I have been exposed to several bad influences, plus a lot of my teachers had those premature judgments they make about students, and almost instigate a self-fulfilling prophecy on them (and me). Anyways, it was definitely a world of bully or be bullied. And as gay as it might be to reference the comic, I felt like Tess (not to the extreme that she has experienced). I got suspended on a few occassions for teasing and messing around with a couple people. Never anything physical, but probably psychologically draining them with my contstant trolling. Looking back, I'm not proud of it. It just wasn't me, that's not how I am, but it remains a stigma in the back of my mind. Just because I received similar treatment, doesn't justify it. School is trough yo, lol. Anyways, that's something I wish I could have changed.

I also wish I would have not been a puss and asked this one girl out in 9th grade. She's smokin' now~

Oh, and I wish I learned how to play guitar at a young age, as opposed to a trumpet. It's just not the same trying to sit around and chill with some friends and blasting a tune on the horn as opposed to playing a mellow tune on an acoustic...or a jaw harp in sammy's case heh.

I'm gonna say nothing because after I did it I would consider time travel and all its implications. Then I would relieve time travel is weird and just not dwell on the past.

if i could go back i would install a rear view mirror.

For me? I wish I had told those kids in my band class to shut up. (It's a long story I don't perfer to tell here.)

With respect to the fact that my existence would be fundamentally altered if I changed something in my past, I don't think I want to change anything. I am comfortable with the way I am now.

Like most other people (I imagine) I'd like to undo my worst academic and moral failings, but other than that there's not much I'd change. I mean, I know I'm not perfect, but I'm fairly happy with the way I turned out.

...I guess I kinda wish I had been more sociable in the past, if that counts. I've kept to myself more than I think I should have.

I wish I had punched that guy the first time I saw him, rather than let it grow into a bigger problem.

I would have killed the guy before he came to my town and decided to get heavy with my sister. I would have tased him to death if I had had the chance.

If I could live everything out "perfectly" and leave my possibilities for the future the same as they are now, future prospects wise, etc...

I'd integrate myself better with my current group of friends, earlier, be less worried about minor things, and work harder on a few exams to give myself an easier ride "now"

Otherwise, I wouldn't.

I'd stop my parents marriage from falling apart. That's about all.

Their splitting up is a stain on a really great life... one of the only ones that I care about. I don't know if I'll ever make peace with what happened.

id save my dad from getting hit by a car have my mom fall in love with me and get him to punch some nigga in the face to win her back
then id play johnny b good and come back to the future

This post has been edited by whf: 03 January 2011 - 10:07 PM

I would have spent a great deal more time actually relaxing and enjoying myself instead of stressing over EVERYTHING, especially the tiniest details. I'm really hardworking but I get way too caught up in school sometimes..so I'm prone to emotional breakdowns and such, due to the accumulation of stress with school as well as issues in my personal life. The worst thing is that I tend to bottle everything up, and once I hit a certain point I let all my anger and frustrations on my closest friends, usually my boyfriend. I've lost a lot of friends this way.

I'm actually working on it now, and stress relief is definitely up there on my resolutions. I swallowed my pride and started therapy not too long ago, and one of my doctor's recommended meditation. At this point I've tried hard not to think about how I can change things I've done/shouldn't have done, because it really isn't productive - but I know firsthand how difficult it is to change that particular mindset. Because of that, when I seriously think about it, I don't feel I'd change anything if I could because regardless of what happened I am who I am due to those experiences. From here on out, I just don't want my stress to evidently take years from my life just because I didn't know how to calm the hell down.

if i could go back? nah... but if i could go black.... oh the things i would do

haha johnny b good

I never saw that film. Perhaps that is what I should do if I could go back: see that film. ^_^

ILB, on 04 January 2011 - 02:49 PM, said:

How very meta. :I

If I could go back, live in my own shoes and retain my knowledge of what had happened (and maybe a little of my current sanity), I'd go back to the 3rd grade when things really started falling about and attempt to communicate what was going on in my mind, get properly treated before my life collapsed and maybe partially avert the train wreck that was the next 9 years of my life and save my mom a lot of grief.

There are 2 separate incidents that I could avoid this way. First, there was that catastrophe in the fifth grade (resulting from my emerging mental problems). Second, there was the disaster in 1997 that left my mom in her current physical condition.

I am who I am because of the mistakes I have made and the things I have accomplished. If I could go back I wouldn't, I'm perfectly fine with myself.

Plus, do you know how annoying it'd be to keep up with what happened in which continuum?

id go back to those gold soundz and keep my address to myself
because its nothing i dont like
is it a crisis or a boring shame?
when its central
so essential
it has a nice ring when you laugh
at the low life opinions
and theyre coming to the chorus now

oh wait i already made a joke post in this thread nvm

Man people here got daddy issues.
Thing is I cant prevent any of the shit that happened to me in my past, because none of it was my fault, and some of the stupid stuff I want to keep there because I learned from it. It might've made me more reserved/shy/whatever, but that's changed over time.
TL;DR shit that happened to me makes me a badass.
As I said, only thing I'd do is get in closer, earlier, with my current group of friends. At the time when I was transitioning from one to another as people moved away etc etc. Oh and maybe try and get in there with a certain girl earlier 8) (This has yet to happen, we shall see)

Yeah, it's funny how so many of us here have problems with our dads. After reflecting on this for a while, I'm changing my opinion for 2 reasons:

1) Every time I'd pull a thread, another billion would come loose. Changing my past would have a butterfly effect, and the consequences could be far reaching and would be completely unpredictable, even in principle. butterfly effect

2) I don't think I'd ever be capable of what my dad did, but how could I be sure? If I prevented him from cheating on my mom, I wonder if my own moral code would be compromised. If it were, would I really be the same person I was before I made the change to my past?

If I could go back, I'd be a real sweetheart in school and would keep in touch with more people. I really regret not having any lifelong friends, but I guess it would have been difficult because of how often everyone moved, myself included. Maybe it was not really possible.

Here guys, take Yashy's example.

I think I should have noticed some girls hitting on me. I have always been an oblivious bastard.

This post has been edited by Lycan: 05 January 2011 - 12:50 AM

Lycan, on 05 January 2011 - 12:50 AM, said:

*spit take*
You had girls hitting on you? Not vice versa? 0_0

Why doesn't that happen to meeeeeeeeeeee! :'( <--sadfaec

Wait, did they use blunt instruments? You should have noticed them, in that case.

Iapetus, on 05 January 2011 - 01:15 AM, said:

lapetus. I once got a fortune cookie that read "Do not look for love. Love will find you." Patience, my friend.

Iapetus, on 05 January 2011 - 01:15 AM, said:

Hey, what's up with the italic "You"??
I'm quite handsome, I tell you!

I think.

Well, Back when that happened, I didn't notice. Maybe you're not noticing now?
Or maybe it's happening to me today as well, but I am still as oblivious as ever...

And, no, Mr. ILB, no blunt instruments un/fortunately o_o

Also, the 'sadfaec' was only a typo or is it a meme? I think I've seen that before...

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I am sure you can remove the "un/". I was just joking. ^_^

Okay. I'm not posting this for reactions. Really. This is 100% coincidental, i assure every one of you.

So i'm 23 now, right? Out of college for a year and looking through a crapshoot work market, right? At something of a minor crossroads with the ladyfriend, right?

So then then my mom passes away, right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Rofl.
Coptor.

Things along the lines of wanting to punch me in the balls and stop being such a hesitant bastard about the things previously listed, blah blah yadda yadda angsty wangsty bullcrap. Just things you expect from many people, just kinda multiplied a bit.

My condolences, Mr. DavCube...

Good change of mind. I wish I get less hesitant as well.


Also, Mr. ILB, I always know you're joking
We're friends, c'mon, don't worry about me being mad ^_^
(because I won't. I know you don't offend people )

I do not, sadly.

Oh well, I guess we live and learn. If we went back and changed things, we would never learn from our mistakes. ^_^

Lycan, on 06 January 2011 - 12:41 AM, said:

:3

Lycan, on 06 January 2011 - 12:41 AM, said:

Maybe.

Lycan, on 06 January 2011 - 12:41 AM, said:

"Un/fortunately"? Kinky.

Lycan, on 06 January 2011 - 12:41 AM, said:

'twas misspelled on purpose. I don't know if I'd call it a meme on its own, but it is meme-related. You see it a lot in lolcats and the like.

DavCube, on 06 January 2011 - 10:37 PM, said:

....ouch. >_<
Hope things pick up in the future.

DavCube, on 06 January 2011 - 10:37 PM, said:

Wow... that's horrible. I sure hope things get better. I know it's not much from an anonymous guy a country away... but best wishes and my condolences.

I would have kept my brothers off the ice.

*Ninja, on 07 January 2011 - 02:44 AM, said:

What do you mean?

My thanks to the well wishes from others here. If the content from my original post wasn't enough of an indicator, i'm almost entirely over it already. I mean hell, the bulk of the problems I was talking about wasn't even my fault. Jobs don't exactly appear out of thin air, and the ladyfriend crossroads is something that can BE put off, since i'm in something of a Mike-Sandy situation with her, and it's nothing major, just something easy to get anxious over.

BUT we're not here to talk about needless drama, we're here to talk about smarmy resolutions we never keep. So DO THAT.

This post has been edited by DavCube: 07 January 2011 - 04:29 AM

Smarmy resolutions, right!

Ahn, let me think!
This year I made an OATH to study my ass off to get a scholarship (I don't know if it should be called scholarship since its for master's degree)
to go to Japan!

I'll probably be here next year complaining I had to study more, though.

So in the future, I will wish I could go back to this point in time.

@Starwatcher: Here's the short version. Pretty cold winter and the ice was thick enough to walk on. My brothers and I went out playing on it, part of it nearly flipped and killed us all. We all got soaked in freezing water and I had to carry my youngest brother from the edge. I then caught all sorts of hell from my father and my mother. Not the closest I've been to dying (my parents nearly killed me for it), but the most stupidly avoidable.

*Ninja, on 08 January 2011 - 06:26 AM, said:

Holy crap - I'm sure glad you all got out of that ok!

If i could go back i would have learnt how to fly. Not an airplane or a helicopter, just, you know, fly... like... superman, i guess. but less gay.