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So, my friends have gathered at someones house and we are staying the night. What annoys me that all them, Exept me, as I am sick of them and now on BCB forums, are on Facebook. Yeah, they'd rather talk to some other friends, than me.
That's why now, I really hate social
networking sites. They're great to keep in contact with friends that are miles and miles
away, but I hate it when people, like my so-called friends, are urged to check it every few hours.
Please take the poll and post any opinions. I would like to hear what people think
^_^
Edit: oh, sorry, I think the poll isn't working, how embarrassing

This post has been edited by Momoa: 06 January 2011 - 02:54 AM

I don't like them a lot, but I'll use them just to stay connected with people. In fact there are many things I can't stand about most of them!

Well, my opinion on them used to be that they are boring and weird and I'd rather just hang out with my friends in person, but suddenly I really like them a lot!

The whole concept is bunk. I mean, you really have to go and tell everybody and their pet monkey everything about you, so that you can "become popular" by making "friends" (which, btw, has copmpletely lost it's true meaning), who are really just stalkers, and you spend all your time on it so that you have no life, and you'd rather talk to some imaginary weirdo than a real person? And on top of that, everything you put on there is no longer your property. They own your soul. Figuratively speaking, of course, as I do not believe in souls. On top of al that, once you make the mistake of going in, it's damn near imposssible to leave. And it's only a step away from plugging everyone into a virtual world where the fat cat corporations (no offense, felines) will completely rule over your destiny by practically owning you.

/rant

This post has been edited by Dr. Klaus: 06 January 2011 - 03:24 AM

One reason they are so popular is because multi-tasking can be physiologically addictive.

I'm not on Facebook, however I have considered joining to be better connected with certain internet friends, all of whom live far away and only one of whom I have ever met in person. But really, I'm not a person that spends any time updating statuses or whatever.

Well for the people who spend all day on them, even when they go to work they have it on their phones and such, well that's just ridiculous I think, but for the people who say live across they ocean and you want to talk to them quickly, that's the answer. A whole lot easier and faster than a letter, and a lot cheaper than buying a phone card every time you want to catch up. So for certain purposes social networking site are great. It's up to you if you want to tell the whole world you just pooped or whatever. Blah blah blah..i'll go on for hours.

I'm not a big fan nor am I a big hater of Facebook. I'm pretty neutral. The only reason why I'm on it is that it's my only way of keeping in touch with others, especially since I have a ton of friends out of state or overseas. I think it's pretty sad though to know that some people are really addicted to it.. it's mostly irritating when I go to lecture at my uni and 10+ people are on their laptops, updating their statuses/playing some game, and not paying attention! Facebook, like other networking sites are neat in some ways but not *that* great.

I still have to protect facebook for having given me the ability to keep in contact with my relatives in America and even some in Ecuador! And totally my brother, I miss him tons ;___;

One of my close friends is a facebook junkie. I wish I could spend more time with her, but it's a great way to still keep in contact with a bunch of friends. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't wanna spend time with you. Who cares? If you're so upset about it why don't you just get facebook ha

The only social networking website I use is the thing that comes with gmail, called "Buzz". I think it's kinda like a mix of Facebook and Twitter, just it doesn't have as much cool stuff on it.

Everyone is a lonely person. Thus, social networking.

I think that Facebook is useful for people like Taeshi and me, who have relatives and friends who live thousands of miles away. Otherwise, it's just a breeding ground for stalkers and perverts. As they say, relationships go to die on facebook.

I generally avoid social networking sites (such as Twitter, Facebook, Myspace, whichever) with a passion, because I am not a very great fan of the premise in general. I mean, I do enjoy talking to people, and I am sure it can be great for keeping contact with those that live far away, but there is something odd about the idea that anybody can go there and see what you say or do or are.

That said, I did join one such site before I had any idea what it was. I do not remember its name. But I quickly left. ^_^

ILB, on 06 January 2011 - 01:26 PM, said:

I agree, to an extent it can get pretty creepy...but that's what privacy settings are for! I'm am pretty much unsearchable on FB and have even blocked certain people from finding me. And if you did find me, all you'll see is probably my profile picture and nothing else. I even have a separate list with specific settings for my relatives and my own parents who tend to stalk my FB like I'm up to no good, lol. It really just depends on how you use social networking sites. Of course, I don't think anyone is required/should get one, it just depends on the person. You just have to be smart and use common sense if you do get involved - a lot of companies and stuff actually look to see if you're on any networking sites, and many people have gotten fired or caught up in some issue due to whatever FB-related thing. People are judged by what's on their FB, which in itself is pretty scary.

On a slightly different note, lamebook.com is hilarious.

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Yes, for regular users. Not for administrators. ^_^

Also, I find the need for such lists to be arbitrary. I have no problems talking with people in the street, even though the odd person that I am not exchanging words with may hear what I say. Besides, I often change conversation partners, and I enjoy talking to people I may not have spoken to before. The privacy option removes this possibility (and is not even available everywhere), while if you avoid it you expose yourselves to absolutely everybody on the Internet (or just those who are members, in which cases the numbers are not much different).

I use facebook perhaps 20 minutes a week. I only use it to share photo's and to check out and create events. ("Yo get your ass to town 2pm monday lawl")

I got family living in New Zealand and it's useful for contacting them, otherwise I just stick to good old IM.

There seem to be 2 schools of thought regarding social networks, in particular facebook.

Facebook is seen by the masses as the same thing as linkedin, but simply for informal contacts, with a messenger built into the site. People round here don't use MSN, ICQ, AIM, or any of that anymore, really. It all goes on on facebook or via texting.

Personally, I have a few acquaintances on there, who are stuck in a list of acquaintances, and that list has no access to much about me, nor can they chat with me, meaning I can let people add me who I don't really know very well, nor do I want to, but don't actually dislike, without a care in the world.

You don't post your resume up there. Trouble is many people go about adding people they only really know as an acquaintance or are "friendly" with them whenever they rarely meet IRL. Kids are the worst for this, because they look at it, and are simple enough to just go "lol my friends". Perhaps Friend will one day change meaning, and the kids saying this know that most of their 500 "friends" aren't close to them, but I dunno.

Twitter etc however seems mildly pointless unless you've actually got something interesting to say. I personally use one to keep watch over a few people who post interesting/amusing/useful things, but very rarely say anything myself. The internet does not care, and to be frank, most people don't use Twitter for keeping in contact with their friends. It's a giant bulletin board, not a place for true discussion.

Many people view Facebook as this horrible invasion of privacy and a place for people to spam out pointless shit that not even their friends care about, to their network of people they know. The latter part of this is only true for a minority, most people genuinely do stick to posting about things which engage the people they know. Sure for instance you get a lot of spam about doing revision etc etc, but it's not to the level that it's irritating, and it's most likely the rest of your friends are thinking it too.

People pay attention to that kind of thing, hence the "like" button, "like" if you agree. Essentially it's a rather dehumanised way of showing some empathy, but it's comforting for us humans, and actually, while people say it's killing real social interaction... I'd say it's actually making real social interaction even more valuable and more to the point -appreciated- by people.

As for the invasion of privacy part, sure maybe. But personally I really couldn't give a damn if the entire world knows who I am, what I do, where I live. It's not like I go posting what I get up to in the bedroom on Facebook now is it? "Oh no an advertising company knows how to target ads at me, which wont even work because I never pay attention to ads!". This is a problem to people?

If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about, just use some basic common sense and don't put GENUINELY private details onto the internet. Phone numbers etc. Sure people can get them anyway -eventually-, but they could even without hacking some website which stores information on a load of people.

Now, back to the OP. If your friends are going onto facebook and screwing around, unless they're all doing it as some kind of group activity and going "hey look at this!" blah blah blah: They're just being plain rude and should l2socialise.

Now then, inb4 the tl;dr of some git.

This post has been edited by Cloud: 06 January 2011 - 06:49 PM

Facebook 24/7 WHATEVAAA
Well okay more like just the parts of 24/7 where I'm at home and on the computer.
I use it to share photos and shit, events, keep in contact with family in Germany and friends who have moved on to different colleges than mine.
But I must admit, I do tend to sometimes Facebook stalk, haha. I have an addiction to loving other people's drama; some people I only keep on my friends list for their drama. That and I love looking at other people's photos because I'm a photowhore.

Haters gonna hate.

This post has been edited by Carmen: 06 January 2011 - 06:51 PM

I like how there is only one voting option up there...I've a Facebook but I only check up on it every now and then.

I'm glad the few friends i have on facebook don't bug the ever-living shit out of me to get back on it because I never freaking use it. Like, ever.

I was badgered into getting an account about five years ago when i started college, never used it, messaged to some walls a couple times, never used it, noticed some old friends from my karate dojo there and friended them, none of them said anything back after accepting. I'm liable to flag facebook e-mails as spam in my yahoo inbox the way they're all like "HEY COME BACK ITS ALL GROOVY AND WONDERFUL HERE KAWAII DESU NE KAAAAAAAAA" every single freaking day. GAH.