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I can change your user name if you like, but I'll give you some kind of mean title

Meh just put my username to something like TeddyBear I'm so huggable.

Can't tell if I'm flattered or worried..

This post has been edited by MeXLucy: 14 February 2011 - 10:51 PM

oh my god this thread is beautiful

I aim to please??

youve succeeded far and beyond your call

Now I'm really worried

I think Susan knocked this on the head.

/thread

MeXLucy, on 14 February 2011 - 11:43 AM, said:

phhhhhhh hahahahahaha

Did I say something wrong?

Longing after something fictional isn't gonna get you anywhere, mate. All sarcasm aside, you need to learn how to take a joke. Might be hard to do when you can't see me grinning away, but try to consider the post a bit more first. Anyways, I could bust out a whole spool of awful shit that's happened to me, but there's no point. It's all in the past. I don't let things define me, 'cause if you take the time to chill out, it's easy to shrug things off. You're not going get in tight with everyone here, nor straight away. Gotta take some time, stay cool, see how things go.

And, whining about prejudice will very quickly piss me off and dismiss you. If you're gonna pick something to run with to gain sympathy, it shouldn't be anti-prejudice. That shit's always gonna exist, and rather than complaining about it, do something.

Counter-attack time in regards to your last few sentences; Not caring about other people's opinions is fine, but pulling a Sue and claiming their irrelevancy is just stupid. Come on, you're an Aspie, you should be intelligent and full of common sense. I know a couple AS guys who are much more chill than you.

PS; I meant comrade in the sense we've both actually had sex, more than a handful of times, but whatever.

MeXLucy, on 14 February 2011 - 10:02 PM, said:

idk really just the fact that you have a longing for a fictional character,who is a cat,and then you want your user name to be changed to "teddybear" and honestly something is telling me you seriosly are not

seadogs123, on 14 February 2011 - 10:18 PM, said:

Nothing I say will make people stop taunting me about it so really don't care anymore.

And I said 'something like' Teddybear not saying I chose it. The admins are allowed to change my display name to whatever they want. That and I have no imagination of my own.

And here I thought we had dropped the fanatics...

This post has been edited by MeXLucy: 14 February 2011 - 10:52 PM

dude it will never be dropped,never

Maybe I can help here?

This thread has gone seriously wrong for you, MeX, and that's a pity for your first one. If I can make some recommendations:

• Take Souppy up on the offer - you need a fresh start, and a new username would get you out of this one. Either discuss it privately with Souppy via PM, or if you're desperate use a random name generator on the 'net. Don't mention the new name here.
  
• Lurk a little - in a week, no-one'll remember your writing style. Watch which threads bubble up, and which die. Learn.
  
• Enjoy the jerks - Even the greatest people have critics being rude about them. We don't discriminate here, so we're generally mildly offensive to everyone. Roll with it, ignore it, or actually find it entertaining, it's up to you. Just don't let it get to you.
  
• Cut down the personal stuff - Sorry, but that username, plus the discussion of your state of health, is too much, too fast. Once you have a few friends around here, you may find yourself forced to discuss that stuff, but right now, no-one cares, sadly. It sounds like a pity request, and not too many of those get answered here. It's a little harsh, but deal with it by yourself. The internet doesn't care.

Sorry to hit you with all that in this way, but it might actually help you. If you follow this advice - and stop posting - I'll see you in a week or two. If not, this thread may put you off the forums forever.

This post has been edited by Yappy: 14 February 2011 - 11:08 PM

MeXLucy, on 14 February 2011 - 10:38 AM, said:

For starters, I have nothing against you. Whether or not you take pleasure in obsessing over a character in a comic doesn't really matter to me. I have plenty of things that make me weird as shit (much weirder than you), so I'm in no position to judge.

Alright, believe it or not, everyone is actually attempting to give you advice. The problem is that they shot themselves at you without warning and took no quarter. Honestly, I feel they probably could have said the same thing without such a harsh tongue. Regardless, this is how people on this forum talk. There is honesty, brutal honesty. There are good and bad results to this. Some good one's would be that you learn more about your own flaws and it helps you better yourself, on the flip side, if you aren't expecting that, it can be very devastating and can put you in deeper ruin. Which leads me to say you should always get to know a forum before you actually sign up. Read what people say, how they respond, how the mods act, and see how people act when they're angry. That way, you can expect the worst (and the best) right off the bat.

Now, on to what you said... I, for the most part, agree. People do prejudge constantly, although I prefer calling it profiling. It's simply a way of life, and honestly, sometimes it's accurate. I have often prejudged/profiled and I feel I'm better off because of it, granted there are some definite exceptions. Let's say I see a large group of African-Americans walking down the street. Honestly, I'm going to go the other direction, because if personal experience has taught me anything, is that you don't tempt fate. Now let's say I see a group of African-Americans in suits walking down the street. Suddenly, do to the clothing change they're less threatening. But why race? Why does it have to be African-Americans? Well let's say I see a group of kids/adults (doesn't matter). I see one African-American, then I see a Hispanic, then I see a Caucasian, and then maybe even a Asian or a Indian, or a middle easterner. The very fact they're multiracial makes them less threatening, at least to me. Once again, why African-Americans? Because of prejudice and stereotypes. It may sound negative, but you know what, it may save my life one day.

Trust me, I know the irony in the following statement, but I honestly feel you not caring what people say and think about you is not a good thing. I understand that some insults have no basis but to hurt you, these you can ignore. Things that you can't, or for personal reasons refuse to, change are the things you should ignore, but if you notice someone mentioning you're overweight(for example), maybe you should listen. I've had people tell me I was an asshole, so I tried to be a little nicer. I've had people say I wasted my time, so I used my time more wisely. I've even had people tell me I have a learning disability, so I went out, and used that time I saved (that was only saved because of what people said about me) to develop some useful skills and hobbies to not only validate myself, but to help my future. Although it may not seem like a wonderful truth, sometimes what the people around us say can be of great help in our lives, and most of the time an asshole cares more about you then a nice guy. They're willing to take the time and energy to get angry so they can get you to actually help yourself, rather than humor you. I will admit, sometimes they will attack you out of their own insecurities, but just take what they say with a grain of salt and move on.

If you want to obsess over Lucy, by all means. If you want to be a furry (I'm prejudicing here), I don't give a shit. As long as you're willing to take time and effort to benefit this world and it's inhabitants then do whatever makes you happy (assuming it doesn't hurt other people(pedophilia, bullying... ect)).

tl;dr We're just being honest.

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Although I'm not 100% on this, but I believe prejudge would be a better choice in words.

@Maverik
First if you can see Lucy a affectionate person is not my interest... In this case is a own opinion... I can`t change what you believe...

I never see she being abusive to her pets(only in scenes to made fun in the comic)

You think Lucy will help only Mike and her pets... Like Meowth show... In recent pages are showing the opposite of this...

And i return to say this... Why you think a person being himself is wrong? If you can`t accept the differences you can`t live!

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This post has been edited by andresm: 14 February 2011 - 11:24 PM

For the rest of this thread, we discuss whether it'll be thrown into Detention or Honor Roll.

Yappy, on 15 February 2011 - 12:02 AM, said:

Depths of hell please.

I'd much rather this topic were to be removed, cause frankly I just want time to lay low for a while.

Drink some cool aid if you have to

Honor Roll it is.